humor is personal

Your temperament is what you write with, but it’s also how you deal with the world.  – Seamus Heaney (www.brainyquote.com)

Men and women are not created the same. Emotionally and physically.  And thank heaven for that. Right-handed and left-brained,  left-handed and right-brained. Engineer or poet; Painter or math teacher; Baseball pitcher or soccer forward.  Neither one is greater.  Nor is either one less than either sex.

Every personal relationship, and in particular,  every marriage has at least two human beings with different emotional traits.  Each has strengths and weaknesses.  Each is no better and no worse that any other.  A workshop my wife and I attended yesterday explored these.  Our handbook was not the DSM 5; instead,  through four people in the Bible we explored how they represented each of these traits.  And how all of us have a dominant temperament, but also may have others at play within us.  The speakers?  A husband and wife of more than forty-five years who, through a christian discipleship perspective have written, spoken and helped thousands of couples.  Two different temperaments yet two entwined hearts, and each are,  biblically, expected to treat the other with respect, honor, and understanding.

Philippians 2  
2 Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.